Have you ever done something way out of your comfort zone?
One of my daughters’ did this weekend. I have four daughters and I think they are all pretty amazing, but this particular daughter is not the most athletic. She’s an amazing artist and has a lot of great talents, but I really wanted her to participate in a sport this year. I wanted her to be active and stay healthy.
She tried swimming, but she said being in the pool wasn’t good for her hair. As most teenage girls, you can imagine how important her hair is to her.
Well, the other option was wrestling. With one look at her, you would see that she is definitely not the typical wrestler type. She’s long and thin…built more like a ballerina than a wrestler…but she tried out and because they needed girls this year, she made the team!
This past weekend was the first wrestling meet. I could tell she was very uncomfortable for a number of reasons: 1. The singlet uniform 2. The ear guards and the hair cap they are forced to wear and 3. She was still very unsure with the rules of wrestling.
When we got to the tournament, a lot of people came up to me and asked what I was doing there. I told them I was there to support my daughter at her first meet. Unfortunately for her, I could tell they expected a seasoned wrestler. I know there was a lot of pressure on her.
She said to me earlier, “All these people will think that because I’m your daughter, I should be some phenomenal wrestler.” I told her, “Don’t worry about them, just do your best.”
It really didn’t matter to me if she won. I was just so proud that she even made it this far. Her coaches and I were impressed that she was attending every single practice no matter how painful the workouts were. One of the coaches told me they usually start off the season with 12 girls and end up with 2. Then he smiled and said, “We thought for sure she was going to disappear, but she’s hanging in there.”
That made me very proud. I wanted her to start something, commit to it and complete the season no matter how difficult it was. Okay…I wont lie to you; I did offer her a small monetary bribe to complete the season. But I think sometimes bribing works if you want your child to gain a life experience from it, right?
Before the match she shared with my wife that she was afraid that she did not know all the rules of wrestling and that she was a little nervous. I spent some time with her before the match and told her not to worry about what you don’t know. Work with the things that you do know and the things that you have practiced. Do the things you are familiar with, the best you can, as long as you try hard and never quit.
She had three matches, she didn’t win any, but she put up a great fight!
I was so proud of her, despite the loss. She faced her fears and that’s what its all about. I hugged her and it felt so good that although she does not think she is a “wrestler” she did really well! Most of all she didn’t give up. I know she is way out of her comfort zone, but she is giving it all she’s got.
For those of you who are working outside of your comfort zone, or are having a hard time at something, remember that as long as you don’t quit, you are a success.